Hello all! I pray you are doing well and abiding in the Lord :) We're starting a new seriessss 🎉These next few posts are for all of my single friends out there (yayyy!) !! But even if you're not single right now or don't consider yourself in that category of being discontent in this season, I hope you stick around still! God works in ways we could never imagine and who knows how He'll use this in your life :) God has really laid it on my heart recently to start sharing more about the journey He's taken me on in learning to be content in singleness. So here I am, after a lot of prayer for Him to soften my heart 😅.
I've avoided this blog series for a little while now...I guess part of me was afraid that if I talked about being content in my singleness too much, God would keep me single longer. Which, honestly, just shows that this is a journey I'm still trekking through: learning to fully embrace, rejoice in and steward my season of singleness. I've grown SO much - I can't deny that - but I still have SO much to learn and I don't want to pretend to you guys that I'm perfect in this area now, because I'm not!
My prayer for this series is that I would be faithful in sharing all that He's taught me so far, and that through these posts, He would encourage, challenge and grow you in being content in singleness - or even whatever season you may be in now. Because at the heart of wanting to speed up to another season is a lack of trust in God and in what He is doing right now. This season you're in is SO intentional, and that's why it's special :) God may not be early...but He will NEVER be late!
When I was thinking of a title for this series, "Still Single" quickly came to mind. Initially I felt like it sounded so...pity-party like? But as I kept thinking about it, I realized that those two words encompass what I used to think about singleness AND what I think of it now. At first, it was always a "Yes...I'm STILL single and waiting...ugh. Can't you send me someone already, God??" sort of reaction. All I wanted was to date someone already.
But what God has been challenging me in this past year and a half is to think of it in a different light: a "YES! I am still single and have the opportunity to undividedly serve God with ALL of my heart! I am still able to use ALL of my time to serve God - today is another chance to use it well for His kingdom! I GET to stay single and treasure this season longer, because I prolly won't ever get it back once I get married" response. (Most of the time at least, hehe.)
You might be cringing reading that - maybe thinking about how impossibly hard it is to get to that point. Is it even possible?
I definitely thought that, too. You don't know how many times I would come home, completely drained and empty from chasing after guys and just crying out to the Lord to set me free from idolizing guys/love. I was that girl who hoped I'd be the one who was "burning with passion" (1 Cor. 7:9) and not be able to function well on my own so that I would just HAVE to get married (which now I'm like, Emmaaa, what were you thinking?? u don't actually want that hahaha). But I can't be the only one who's ever thought that. Anyway, the point of the matter is...I had a really hard time thinking it was possible to be freed from that overpowering desire to love and be loved (which is a God-given thing! but we'll get to that in a later post :D), too. It was so difficult to imagine not being trapped in the endless cycle of seeking guys.
But friend, we all know that verse that says that with God, all things are possible, right? So...why can't God do the impossible in this area, too? Because let me tell you - He longs to. He longs for each of us to fully realize that all we need is in Christ!
So don't stop believing and hoping and praying for it :)
I'm not fully there yet, but He's growing me SO much more than I thought possible and I have learned SO much. I want to share it all with you - not in a "look how much better I am at this" way but in a desire for you to experience the same freedom that I've gotten to. Because it's completely by the GRACE of God that I am what I am today!! Ultimately, this has gotta be from prayer. I CANNOT stress enough how important praying is!! God tells us to "ask, and you will receive" - are you asking the Lord to free you? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to find fulfillment in Christ alone?
In the following post, I want to start by sharing the story of how God took me from that boy-crazy girl to who I am today. In the posts that'll follow, I'll address some common lies we believe about singleness and share some lessons and tools I've learned along the way that I pray blesses you :) Prayer is a HUGE part of it, but the answer to prayer for me came through all of the truth that was revealed to me.
While I type out the rest of the next post hehe, I have one question that I'd encourage you to prayerfully, humbly ask yourself to help you identify where you're at right now. Take some time to really PAUSE and think about it before you answer. Don't give the church answer; give the HONEST answer. It's okay if you're not at the point where you want to be right now. There's grace for that. But wrestle through it. Talk to God about it -- remember, He knows your heart already, so don't be afraid to bring those thoughts to the surface. He won't be surprised and turn you away :) And start praying now that He'd bring you to where He wants you to be!
Okay, here's the question:
If I never got married, would God still be enough for me?
Would I still praise Him?
"I have said these things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation, but take heart;
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"I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all of my heart; I will tell of all your wonderful deeds."